I had the most horrible experience with Oaklyn today at Target. I was honestly soooo stinkin mad at her.
We went to buy all of her school supplies, and I decided to buy her a few shirts for school while we were there. Well, after my entire cart was FULL to the brim with markers, pencils, crayons, erasers, binders...etc (the ENTIRE list from her teacher) PLUS a few shirts. She decides she wants a Barbie.
I tell her that today was not the day to be buying Barbies, and that today was the day to buy her school supplies. I had also decided along the way that my kids needed some new color wonder coloring books for church because I love that they can't color on themselves or the bench with the markers. So, I had Connelly and Londyn pick out what kind they wanted, and told Oaklyn to pick out which one she wanted. Well, Oaklyn decides that she DOES NOT want a color wonder book.
She starts saying things like, "You NEVER buy me ANYTHING," and "You are soooo mean to me" and "I feel invisible." It made me feel really bad. In fact, it made me feel like putting back the $70.00 worth of items I had in my cart for HER. It confused me because it all stemmed from the fact that I WAS trying to buy her something. Something that I knew she would like on Sunday, and that if she didn't get one, she would feel left out once Sunday came. IT just wasn't the SOMETHING (Barbie) that she thought she should have.
I was proud of myself for keeping my cool, but I calmly told her that if she didn't see how spoiled she was, then we'd just put back all of the school stuff that was in the cart. I was ready to do it too. I would have, in fact, I almost did. I started walking back to the school supplies. I got all the way back. I started getting the stuff from the cart, and she finally said that she was sorry for acting that way. I explained why I had wanted her to buy a color wonder book, and that I knew if the didn't have one on Sunday she would feel bad. She still wouldn't agree to get one...stubborn thing. Was I really trying to talk my daughter INTO letting my buy something for her!?! What!???!!
I don't know why Connelly can be so grateful for one, I repeat ONE notebook, when Oaklyn feels like she is soooo picked on when I buy her an ENTIRE cart full of supplies. It makes me furious, and it makes me wonder what I have done to make her be like this.
I know my daughter is this way, but still when I drag THREE kids into the store and she acts this way, I was very very frustrated with her "attitude."
My patience can't take instances like this. I'm not cut out for it. I'm too stubborn myself. I just needed to vent a bit. I'll be fine, and I'll keep praying that Heavenly Father will help me to raise her.
7 comments:
You are a good Mom Brooke. And I have to say I love reading about things like this... from anyone... even you:) Because it makes me feel like I am not the only one looking back on the day with a "WHAT? What was I thinking?" ya know? I think you handled that well and if there is one thing I can say about you it is that you are GREAT at communicating. Even with kids. Obviously you are... Ha! You teach it:) But still... you are awesome.
THANK YOU!! Jake is the same way. I have been feeling like the worst mom on earth lately. Like what did i do to create this spoiled brat? Maybe it's the age. They are only a few months apart. But I hope it's not the age cause then we will have to go through it again with all of them!
No kidding! Madelyn has been giving me major attitude lately and expects me to buy her everything in sight. Today she threw a huge fit because she wanted to keep the present that we're bringing to a birthday party tomorrow--even though she already owns the EXACT same thing!! UGH!
Brooke, I think you are doing exactly what you should. I do not have a 5 year old, heck I am barely making it through the 3 year old stage. But I have always thought you were a great mom and I think she will grow out of it as long as we don't give into them now.
SOO glad I'm not the only one with a stubborn, STRONG-WILLED girl!! Too bad mine hasn't ever grown out of that stage (since she's going to be TEN soon!) Wow... how did I get old enough to have a 10 year old?!?!?!?!??!!??!?! At least we both have a loving, kind, tender one next-- isn't it nice??
Love you. You are a FANTASTIC Mom!!!
Wow. I feel like Emilie is already that way and she is half her age. Its so hard to be a mom sometimes....You do a great job though.
ps. your pictures are adorable. I wish I had somebody good to take my kids pictures, there is literally nobody out here. Anyways, I can't wait to come back and actually have some cute pictures done.
Just now read your blog...Oh Oaklyn - I guess we all have to have challenges with our kids. One thing I learned over the years was to take one child at a time school shopping. This way the others don't know what's going on...ha,ha!!! You'll be fine. Sometimes it's the ones most like us that are the hardest. Love you!
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